Valentine’s Day always makes me think of my single friends.
Our experience in marriage has been so fun and easy that I almost want to tell everyone, “Never ever marry until you are at least 35!” But, I see people that have great marriages and met in high school. If you wait till your older there are fertility issues and some people get set in their ways…I have fabulous friends that have never married. Friends that are seeking God’s will for their lives.I truly believe their obedience and desire to follow Christ has kept them from marrying the wrong person. It is far better to be single and wish you were married than married and wish you were single.
I look at marriages that are struggling or that have falling apart and I wonder,”If you are honest with yourself did you marry at a time when you thought it was time to get married? Or because you wanted a wedding or a baby or just something different in your life. Or because your parents or others were asking “Why aren’t you married?”
We have all made permanent decisions based on a temporary emotion and faced consequences. Why do you think the tattoo removal business is booming?
If you have a single friend, son or daughter please don’t add to their pressure because you want grandchildren or think it is time, or that they are picky…Marriage is the area you should be picky!
I suggest we change how things are done and we throw the big wedding like party with gifts when our girls graduate from college or graduate school! This is when they need these things to get started in life. Let them be the princess of that day because they have accomplished something. And go back to having punch in the church when you marry. No one is ever going to marry the wrong person for punch in the fellowship hall. I do believe some girls marry for the wedding. (I would grandfather in all my friends that graduated many years ago because I would not want them to miss being celebrated.)
All this rambling to say:
1. Let’s make our girls feel so loved, confident and secure alone that they would never choose a life with someone that made them feel anything less.
2. One woman’s frog could be another woman’s prince!
If you have a single friend or daughter please check out http://www.PrincessBubble.com
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Princess Bubble makes it to India! Well, she is a flight attendant! Going solo can be spiritually empowering as long as you take safety precautions to avoid getting into dangerously vulnerable situations, says Anuradha Varma. Princess Bubble and the Paper Bag Princess, modern fairytale characters, can teach us a thing or two about being single. The latter got hot and dirty while trying to rescue her prince, who turned up his nose and told her to dress like a princess – he soon got the boot. Princess Bubble was created by former flight attendants Susan Johnston and Kimberly Webb and found her happily-ever-after long before finding Prince Charming. Read more at http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/spirituality/new-age-insight/Are-you-single/articleshow/12412365.cms http://www.PrincessBubble.com
My in-laws just celebrated their 50th Aniversary. We all went to the beach for a week. If my husband and I make it to 50 years we will be 93 and 94! LOL! And this is our first marriage.
This was my first family trip with my new family and it was great. Of course, like any family we had the members that did not want to conform or participate in certain things. My husband and I are both the first born and pleasers. So, not only did we agree to wear what our mother-in-law wanted us to wear for the Christmas card picture-we also brought additional white shirts for family members we suspected would not bring what they were asked to wear.
The rebels not only did not bring what they were asked to bring they also refused to wear our back up options. And one member was not even present when picture time rolled around. It was refreshing to see that all families have their black sheep and what really matters is how you handle the rebels.
My mother-in-law was a sport about the whole thing. But, having lost a parent and knowing my parents will not celebrate their 50th (as well as being a pleaser) I wondered why others can’t conform for 5 minutes to make their mother or mother-in-law happy while celebrating their anniversary???
I am sure part of making it 50 years is learning to roll with the punches and that is the lesson I got out of our celebration week. We can’t control others-even when it’s our party!
I am thankful to be a part of such a great family (rebels and all) and hope to celebrate 50 years with my prince!
Happily Ever After and Congratulations!
Yesterday was my first wedding anniversary. We had a fun day at the beach with my family followed by drinks on top of Ocean Lodge with a view of the ocean. Then the guys grilled steaks and we ate more of the one year old wedding cake which I can not believe was still good. That alone is just crazy to me.
Our first year of marriage was surprisingly easy for a first marriage for a pair of 40 somethings. We had bumps in the road like the stress of buying and remodeling a house while surviving a miscarriage and 2 out patient surgeries and a 4 month legislative session. Recently, we went to a marriage seminar at the church we attend when in Atlanta and not only were we the oldest ones there! But, we realized we did not have many of the issues the leaders were discussing because we lived the message of Princess Bubble and we had had complete lives before we married and knew who we were going into the marriage. I would not suggest for other women to wait as long as I did to marry; but I found someone worth the wait and there are positives to being an older bride. If you have not read my book, Princess Bubble, the message is that true happiness is not found in a prince but in helping others, loving God, liking who you are already. The conference we attended spent a lot of time trying to heal or correct the issues couples had when they entered the marriage expecting their spouse to make their lives perfect or rescue them.
I spent so much time trying to empower girls and share with them the message of Princess Bubble and knew the message was important for women to also remember…But, then I got caught up in all that was happening in my own life and put the message aside for a while. Now I am reminded of the importance and how every woman and girl needs to be encouraged to remember how special they are and how we need to take responsibility of our own happiness and not expect someone else or something else to make them happy.
So girls-remind your girlfriends, teach your daughters, and tell yourself that happiness is attainable for all of us start your own happily ever after today! Today I start on year two of my marriage and love my prince but plan to live happily ever after with him instead of because of him.
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Princess Bubble Book Review by Parenting Pink December 2, 2009 by Elizabeth Donovan, M. A. Great Books for Girls http://parentingpink.com/2009/12/princess-bubble-by-susan-johnston-kimberly-webb/ Princess Bubble by Susan Johnston and Kimerbly Webb (illustrated by Maria Tonelli) is a delightful, refreshing read that sends a positive and important message to girls that Disney occasionally does not: “Be yourself; embrace who you are; and forget about waiting for a prince to rescue you from your troubles!” Princess Bubble is an independent, intelligent, thoughtful, and charitable princess who can’t understand why her parents and “princess friends” constantly pressure her to ‘find Mr. Right’ and ’settle down’ by getting married. Princess Bubble is a well-traveled princess with an education (from Royal University), a job, lots of friends, and a ‘palace’ she purchased on her own. She enjoys movie night with the other princesses, attending royal celebrations, and spending time with her family. But Princess Bubble just can’t seem to figure out why her parents and others want her to find ‘Prince Charming’ so she can live her ‘happily ever after.’ She tries to please her parents by dating lots of Princes, but none of them make her happy. She desperately sorts through fairy tales trying to find a reasonable Prince to date to no avail. After much soul searching, Princess Bubble decides that if she’s already happy with herself, she can make her own ‘happily ever after’ without the assistance of a man. Bravo Princess Bubble! Finally a princess that encourages girls to rescue themselves and forgo waiting for ‘prince charming’ to show up and magically sweep them away on his perfectly white horse! Princess Bubble is a wonderful, fun, and inspirational modern day fairytale for girls of all ages! To purchase a copy of Princess Bubble ($9.60) see Amazon.com.
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Princess Bubble Book Review: A Princess Who Empowers Girls http://www.theshoppingmama.com/2009/10/princess-bubble-book-review-princess.html Princess Bubble is a fairy tale for today’s modern girl. Written by friends Susan Johnston and Kimberly Webb, the women wanted to make that point that “although princes are fabulous, a princess must find her security in something much deeper. Johnston and Webb want women of all ages to embrace the truth that ‘happily ever after’ is attainable for everyone.” I think you can understand why I was immediately intrigued and interested in learning more about Princess Bubble! Princess Bubble is a 35-page, modern-day fairy tale starring a well-employed, globe-trotting, good-friend, good-date, helpful-neighbor princess who is confused by the traditional fairy tale message that implies she must find her “prince” before she can live “happily ever after.” The story of Princess Bubble begins when she graduates from Royal University and heads into the world as a working woman. She lives in a castle all her own and socializes with other Princesses. I laughed out loud at when Princess Bubble and her friends were bridesmaid in royal weddings and wearing “Long, colorful bridesmaids’ dresses and dyed satin shoes that they were told they would wear again.” As her friends are marrying off, the Queen advises Princess Bubble to find a Prince. The Princess makes an effort to meet her husband, but upon reflection and a visit from her Fairy Godmother Princess Bubble realizes she’s perfectly content. She has friends, family and a fulfilling life without a Prince. The message isn’t that she is anti-Prince or that she will forever live the single life. Rather, the idea is that Princess Bubble is already living her happily ever after. “We are definitely not anti-Prince,” author Kimberly Webb explained. “We just believe that young girls today are bombarded with so much inaccurate advice on how to build their self-esteem—messages that focus on the outside rather than what’s within. We want to change that message.” To Buy… Yes! At less than $10, this modern day fairy tale has a fun story, a great message and is the perfect gift for any girl in your life. Even an adult girlfriend will get a kick out of Princess Bubble’s story and the modern life parallels to traditional fairy tale themes. Or Not to Buy… Princess Bubble is targeted for girls aged 6 and older and younger girls might be a little bored by the storyline and many references will likely go right over a young girl’s head. Shop! Princess Bubble is available for purchase on Amazon for only $9.60. Thank you to the authors for providing a sample product for the purposes of this review. The opinions are mine and uninfluenced and others may have different experience.
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