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Valentine’s Day & Singles

Valentine’s Day always makes me think of my single friends.
Our experience in marriage has been so fun and easy that I almost want to tell everyone, “Never ever marry until you are at least 35!” But, I see people that have great marriages and met in high school. If you wait till your older there are fertility issues and some people get set in their ways…I have fabulous friends that have never married. Friends that are seeking God’s will for their lives.I truly believe their obedience and desire to follow Christ has kept them from marrying the wrong person. It is far better to be single and wish you were married than married and wish you were single.
I look at marriages that are struggling or that have falling apart and I wonder,”If you are honest with yourself did you marry at a time when you thought it was time to get married? Or because you wanted a wedding or a baby or just something different in your life. Or because your parents or others were asking “Why aren’t you married?”
We have all made permanent decisions based on a temporary emotion and faced consequences. Why do you think the tattoo removal business is booming?
If you have a single friend, son or daughter please don’t add to their pressure because you want grandchildren or think it is time, or that they are picky…Marriage is the area you should be picky!
I suggest we change how things are done and we throw the big wedding like party with gifts when our girls graduate from college or graduate school! This is when they need these things to get started in life. Let them be the princess of that day because they have accomplished something. And go back to having punch in the church when you marry. No one is ever going to marry the wrong person for punch in the fellowship hall. I do believe some girls marry for the wedding. (I would grandfather in all my friends that graduated many years ago because I would not want them to miss being celebrated.)
All this rambling to say:
1. Let’s make our girls feel so loved, confident and secure alone that they would never choose a life with someone that made them feel anything less.
2. One woman’s frog could be another woman’s prince!

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When the Glass Slipper is on the Other Foot

Today I received a very kind email from a gentleman informing me he was writing a very unkind review of Princess Bubble. That is fine. Any press we receive is better than none. I am not 100% sure of what he did not like about the book; but feel safe assuming he took the ending where Princess Bubble does not find a prince but learns that “true happiness comes from loving God, helping others and liking who you are already”-as anti-men or anti-marriage. So, I ask myself. If I read a fairy tale where the prince went to the ball or was busy training to become king or even ruling his kingdom and had not found the princess he felt would be the best helpmate or the girl that he felt he just could not live without- would I assume he was anti-women? Maybe, if he showed no interest in women at all and had exceptional taste and loved the theatre– I may make a snap judgement that he may be a queen instead of a prince. But, I would not consider that anti-women or against the institution of marriage? I don’t think so. At one point in our world marriage was necessary to sustain the farm and for survival. Marriage is a beautiful thing, and in present day, many of us have the privilege of choosing a mate based on compatibility and enjoyment verses survival. I have the upmost respect for men. My favorite people in the world (and now heaven) are men or boys. (My father and two precious nephews) I look forward to seeing how “We are on different sides of the culture war.” As stated in the email I received about the review, I personally take no offense to this. But, I am saddened for single women that because they have made a choice to not marry the wrong person,someone would see this as anti-family or anti-marriage. From here, it seems like the entire reason there is a break down of the family unit is because people have made poor choices along the way, but I am an optimist and believe that through hope and trust in God, all can be healed!