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Valentine’s Day & Singles

Valentine’s Day always makes me think of my single friends.
Our experience in marriage has been so fun and easy that I almost want to tell everyone, “Never ever marry until you are at least 35!” But, I see people that have great marriages and met in high school. If you wait till your older there are fertility issues and some people get set in their ways…I have fabulous friends that have never married. Friends that are seeking God’s will for their lives.I truly believe their obedience and desire to follow Christ has kept them from marrying the wrong person. It is far better to be single and wish you were married than married and wish you were single.
I look at marriages that are struggling or that have falling apart and I wonder,”If you are honest with yourself did you marry at a time when you thought it was time to get married? Or because you wanted a wedding or a baby or just something different in your life. Or because your parents or others were asking “Why aren’t you married?”
We have all made permanent decisions based on a temporary emotion and faced consequences. Why do you think the tattoo removal business is booming?
If you have a single friend, son or daughter please don’t add to their pressure because you want grandchildren or think it is time, or that they are picky…Marriage is the area you should be picky!
I suggest we change how things are done and we throw the big wedding like party with gifts when our girls graduate from college or graduate school! This is when they need these things to get started in life. Let them be the princess of that day because they have accomplished something. And go back to having punch in the church when you marry. No one is ever going to marry the wrong person for punch in the fellowship hall. I do believe some girls marry for the wedding. (I would grandfather in all my friends that graduated many years ago because I would not want them to miss being celebrated.)
All this rambling to say:
1. Let’s make our girls feel so loved, confident and secure alone that they would never choose a life with someone that made them feel anything less.
2. One woman’s frog could be another woman’s prince!

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Holding Out For Mr. Right

I was at a wedding this past weekend and an old teacher and youth minister of mine said, “You are the last hold out. I know, I know Princess Bubble is happy anyway…” If you are not familiar with Princess Bubble, I am the co-author of a modern day fairy tale about a single princess who has not found a prince but learns that true happily ever after is found loving God, helping others and liking who you are already. We are not anti-prince, we are just not willing to marry Mr Wrong for a wedding. We believe you should be happy first! If a prince comes along share your happiness with him. If not, hey-you are happy!

But, the words “hold out” stuck in my head. At first I thought of this as another, “Why aren’t you married?” statement. I have always been annoyed by the guys that are looking over your shoulder while they talk with you– in case someone better looking was to appear! So, I thought what do I “hold out” for in life?

The first example that came to mind was: 

A buffet and why waste my calories on the jello when there maybe something far more delicious down the line.

I did not like this example because it reminded me of the guys hoping for something better.

The second example I thought of was:

Not accepting the first job because you really have your heart set on getting a job in the field you are passionate about.

I liked this example a lot more because I believe you would see the value in the first job and appreciate so much the offer and consider taking this job; but decide you really wanted to pursue the career you were passionate about.

But, no one has ever asked me to marry them, so if I never received a job offer- would I be holding out?

Why would someone not hold out? Why settle? I am not saying you will ever find someone perfect but perfect for you. I may think I would like certain things on a list; but when I have chemistry with someone-I seem to throw all list out the window.

Finding a best friend is the same way. We are never going to be best friends with every person we meet. But, when we find a best friend the comfort of knowing they will be there for us, enjoying and looking forward to each time you get to be together, or just having them listen, laugh and cry with you is worth more than 100 acquaintances.

So, I guess I am “holding out” because I don’t want to miss time with the people I do love- to marry someone I hope to one day love. I would rather hold out and love now!

Happily Ever After!